My abusive husband won’t talk to me but he’s controlling my life, This Morning caller tells horrified hosts

THIS Morning hosts Dermot O’Leary and Alison Hammond were shocked to hear the story of a woman living in an abusive home.

The caller who went by the name ‘Samantha’ phoned the ITV morning show during the Dear Deidre segment.


This Morning hosts Alison Hammond and Dermot O’Leary were horrified to hear a caller talk about the violent situation she was living in

The beloved columnist regularly appears on the show to offer advice to those who ask for it and today helped Samantha who was trapped in an abusive relationship.

“You did it brilliantly, what’s keeping you there,” Deidre asked, as Alison asked if it was for “financial” reasons.

Samantha explained that her husband didn’t want to talk to her and that she had tried to leave him but had no money to stay in the social flat she had been given.

“He comes home and makes demands…she corners me and he turns on me,” she said, which Deidre says is a sign of narcissism and coercive control.


Women’s Aid has this advice for victims and their families:

  • Always keep your phone nearby.
  • Connect with charities for help, including the Women’s Aid live chat helpline and services such as SupportLine.
  • If you are in danger, call 999.
  • Familiarize yourself with the silent solution, report abuse without speaking on the phone, by dialing “55” instead.
  • Always keep some cash with you, including change for a public phone or a bus ticket.
  • If you think your partner is about to attack you, try to go to a lower risk area of ​​the house, such as where there is an exit and access to a phone.
  • Avoid the kitchen and the garage, where there are probably knives or other weapons. Avoid rooms where you might be trapped, such as the bathroom, or where you might be locked in a closet or other small space.

If you are a victim of domestic violence, SupportLine is open Tuesdays, Wednesdays and Thursdays from 6pm to 8pm on 01708 765200. The charity’s email helpline is open weekdays and weekends during the crisis – [email protected]

Women’s Aid provides a live chat service – available weekdays 8am-6pm and weekends 10am-6pm.

You can also call the free 24-hour National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247.

Deidre recommended calling the National Domestic Violence Hotline and offered to speak to Samantha off the air for more specific help.

“They can help you start thinking about the financial aspect,” Deidre explained of some of the options available for getting financial help.

I would hate to think that you continue for the rest of your life in a damaging relationship…it will set your soul free if you can muster the courage and determination to do so.”

Deidre explained that the National Domestic Abuse Hotline not only talks about physical abuse, but also about coercive control.

“It’s awful. You’re in a living prison,” she told Samantha.

The camera then cut to a horrified Dermot and Alison who promised the caller that Deidre would jump right on the phone with her after the segment.

Although physical abuse may be easier to spot, being emotionally abused can be just as damaging.

The Serious Crimes Act 2015 makes “controlling or coercive” behavior towards another person in an intimate or family relationship punishable by up to five years in prison.

'Samantha' called during the Dear Deidre segment asking for advice on how to leave her husband


‘Samantha’ called during the Dear Deidre segment asking for advice on how to leave her husband

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