Love is messy. Not all relationships can start with a magical masquerade and a lost shoe, like in fairy tales. In real life, relationships start out in all kinds of ways.
Some start because two people are just together all the time for work and they get used to each other. It’s not romantic, but the key to a lasting relationship isn’t necessarily a romantic start. And that’s a good thing for actor Julia Roberts.
According to It, Roberts and her husband Danny Moder arrive on two decades of marital bliss. Yet their relationship began in one of the least romantic ways possible.
Julia Roberts and Danny Moder started their relationship as an affair
Roberts and Moder were otherwise tied up when they met. Moder was a cameraman on the set of the film Mexican. It was 2001. Roberts was dating fellow actor Benjamin Bratt.
According to Nicki swift, Bratt and Roberts had been together for four years, but their relationship seemed to end naturally when Roberts met Moder. Bratt was going to marry someone else shortly after his split from Roberts, so it seemed like things were going well for the celebrity couple.
Moder, meanwhile, was married to a makeup artist when he met Roberts. Vera Steimberg and Moder had been married for four years, and Steimberg was not ready to end the marriage when Roberts and Moder met. The two were distraught, but Steimberg was understandably upset. She refused to sign the divorce papers.
Roberts tried to shame him, which backfired dramatically. Roberts lost her hard-earned status as “America’s sweetheart,” and her career seemed groping. When it comes to his personal life, however, everything worked out.
Danny Moder and Julia Roberts now have one of Hollywood’s longest relationships
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Despite a rough start, Moder and Roberts have been doing well since they met in 2001. The two tied the knot in 2002, after a very short relationship. At 19 years of marriage, they have one of the longest relationships in Hollywood. Roberts and Moder also added three children to their family.
Twins Phinnaeus and Hazel were born in 2004. Henry arrived two years later. Despite his star status, Roberts keeps his personal life private. It could be that she learned her lesson after the flashback she received on dating Moder in the first place. But Roberts doesn’t leave his kids on social media and leads a very calm life.
What makes Julia Roberts and Danny Moder’s relationship work?
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Roberts is calm about her marriage, as she is about the rest of her personal life. She opened up to the Goop Podcast about her life with Moder and what makes their marriage work. Unfortunately, this is not something that all couples can emulate.
Moder and Roberts work because they really, really love each other. Even 19 years later, the two value each other above all else. According to Roberts, “What he has to say or his point of view interests me more than anyone. Really, we are so lucky this way. We really, really love each other and just enjoy each other’s company.
But Roberts admits she had no idea her relationship with Moder would be so perfect when they got together. Much of this is down to luck. Roberts says couples can’t really know they’re going to have the same parenting philosophy, or the same lifestyle ideas, until they’re together and do it. Fortunately, she and Moder have coincided in the way that matters most.